You might be an Enabler if …

• you sidestep issues by trying to keep the peace and consistently try to avoid conflict.
• you think your Loved One’s drug or alcohol use is just a phase and is nothing to be worried about.
• you generally play down the situation and think the problem will eventually go away on its own.
• you tend to scold, condemn or harp on your Loved One.
• you take over your Loved One’s chores, justify your Loved One’s inability to participate in family activities, make excuses to allow your Loved One to avoid work or other obligations.
• you often rescue your Loved One by helping him or her out of financial jackpots.
• you treat your Loved One like a child and financially support him or her, even though he or she is an adult.
• you try to control your Loved One’s activities.
• you ever join your Loved One in the dangerous behavior, even when you know he or she has a problem.
• you give your Loved One just one more chance … and then another … and yet another.

If you think it’s time to stop enabling, please contact me.  I can help you find the tools to make you an Advocate for your Loved One instead of an Enabler.